As a single mom people do not realize that parenting is a full time job, we are both mother and father and then factor in that we have to work for a living as well and it's like doing three jobs at once.
Like any single mom my days are about my boys. My days basically consists of geting up by 7am, most nights not going to bed until after 11pm, lots and lots of laundry so they have clean clothes to wear since they get fithy most of the time with food, dirt, water or sand, paint, pretty much anything they can get their hands on, playing on the floor with the baby, building towers with my little man, playing pretend, driving tractors in the dirt, reading stories, watching treehouse, driving to gym class, playdates, going for walks, then factor in other things like grocery shoping, paying bills, or attempting to clean up with two boys running around your feet and my day can get pretty busy and hectic.
Tired seems to be a permanent fixture in my life, but its worth it to have my boys with me, being there with them every day, watching their firsts, seeing them learn and watching them grow. The moments that I have with them are some of the most amazing moments of my life! There are definitely days that I want to pull my hair out or scream. I get asked a lot "How do you do it all by yourself?". It took me a while to come up with the answer to that.
I can see how people think it's lonely being a single mom, wondering how I do it by myself. For the most part I do this alone, I'm doing the job of both Mom and Dad - I don't have a husband to vent to about daily troubles, no one to help me bath the boys, get them to bed, get up in the morning, no one to talk to about things going on with the boys, or anyone to give me a break and let me go to bed early or sleep in. I thank god a lot for my mom and dad, who help me out so much!
So my answer to the question is that I just do it! My day to day life keeps me busy enough that I don't usually realize that I'm missing any of this. I may not be enough for some people, but one thing I do know is that I'm everything to my boys. That is what gets me through every day, that's where I get my strength from. No matter how bad life can get- I love being a mom and I wouldn't change it for anything in this world, single or not!
Being a single mom can be extremely tiring, I compare it to running a marathon every single day, its physically and mentally exhausting. Everything is up to you, your kids depend solely on you, one little screw up and it's your fault, the blame rests on you. One of those lines that somedays you have to repeat to yourself, "Remember, it's only you now, they depend on you, you will get through this because you have to". Although
there is a lot of good things that come with the bad. For all of the tough times, there are those moments where the sun peaks its head out of the clouds and things just somehow get brighter and seem clearer. These are the days which make it all worth it.
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